Glad that’s over with and by “that,” I mean 2017. It’s been a challenging year and not just because there were tons more memes to keep up with. The past twelve months have brought with them public fear and anxiety about an uncertain future. Relationships have been weakened by flaws that became more visible—sometimes even painfully obvious—this year. More than just a year of alarming news updates and alternate realities, it’s been one of confusion and hurt and sacrifice felt so internally that we couldn’t help but ask how—how to help, how to protest and how to run.
We also asked how to be strong women. I still ask this every day, in every decision that I make and every relationship that I navigate. We asked how to make a difference… but the age-old saying rings true even now—it starts with me and you. I’m working toward the understanding that I can’t demand a better social outcome without demanding more of myself—more self-awareness, more compassion and more empathy. In 2018, I resolve to nurture a stronger relationship with myself so that I know the difference between elevating others’ voices and speaking for them. I can only speak for myself but not before I know who I am, where I stand and what I’m fighting for. And in the midst of fighting to be heard, I resolve to remember to rest, to be content with my efforts at the end of each day, week and month.
I challenge you to do the same. Here are 15 New Year’s resolutions you can add to your list for a better relationship with yourself in 2018.
- Read one new book.
- Take yourself on a solo date.
- Treat yourself to a spa service, like a massage or manicure.
- Volunteer with a local charity.
- See a movie alone.
- Do a face mask.
- Get a workout in.
- Eat a salad.
- Run yourself a bubble bath Monica Geller would be jealous of.
- List three things in your life you’re thankful for.
- Get more steps in.
- Complain less.
- Log off for at least one hour.
See you on the other side.